I want to tell you something about Dani.
He ran the family business in Manchester for years.
Feeling the itch he stretched into new circles. Searching for new answers.
Found a networking event in London that changed everything.
He'd get on the train to London to go to personal development events.
And every week he'd feel it.
Heading south: free. Alive. Like himself. The exciting new location where people supported him because they wanted the same thing. New, and a little bit scary.
Heading north: heavy. Constrained. Like someone else's version of him. The familiar place, that represented a life accumulated not created. Same people, same problems.
He started asking a question he couldn't un-ask.
Which one am I?
The man on the southbound train. Or the one going home.
One day on the train north, coffee and notebook he did an exercise.
Peak positive. Peak negative.
Write down when you felt most alive. Write down when you felt most like you were disappearing.
The answers were so obvious it was almost embarrassing.
He got home and told Christina: I'm selling the business.
Not because the business was failing.
Because he finally saw it clearly. The biggest thing in his life was the thing blocking his life.
Because he saw that his Environment Quality - his location and routine - was no longer serving him. And his Relationship Portfolio - the people in his life that supported his growth - they weren’t where he spent most of his time.
That exercise took twenty minutes.
The decision took one conversation.
The life that followed was unrecognisable.
Opportunity. Adventure. Excitement.
It sounds so simple its almost stupid. But I'm willing to bet you haven't done it this way?
Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing.